
Friday – A Life Lived in Literature, 35th Installment
In 2012-13 my first two grandchildren were born, assuring my father—who died the following year—that life continues on. Scott Bates, the man most responsible for my being who I am, died at 90, and the memorial service we had for him (as he had requested) was filled with poetry and red wine. Many of us read poems that he had either written or that he had loved. Before he passed, I spent two summers, two Christmases, and a sabbatical fall semester with him. He was my blog’s #1 fan, and I, knowing he would read it daily, loved occasionally surprising him with his own poems. Those times together were special as he became increasingly incapacitated.
I have one memory from this time that sums him up nicely. One night he fell out of bed (he was now sleeping downstairs), and unable to get up, he pushed his medical alert button. Although the EMT unit was supposed to call us before showing up, for some reason they didn’t—or perhaps my mother slept through the telephone call—but at any rate the ambulance was suddenly at our door. The two men helped my father back into bed (which I could have done) and then asked him about the various nail and hardware artworks that he had painted, which were strewn around the house. Although it was 2 am, my father saw this as an opportunity to share one of his many passions and, for the next 30 minutes, proceeded to share his vision. Although my mother and I were ready to collapse, the men were fascinated.
The memory brings back another one from when he was being cross-examined by the defense counsel in our 1962 desegregation trial. Along with other white and Black families, we had sued the Franklin Board of Education for failing to comply with the 1954 Brown v. Board of Education decision and were pleading our case before a judge in a courtroom reminiscent of the one that appears in the movie To Kill a Mockingbird. “Are you associated with that Communist organization Highlander Folk School?” the attorney asked at one point, earning a sustained objection from our attorney and the judge. My father, however, wanted to answer the question: not knowing or caring how courts worked, he figured that this was the perfect opportunity to share his knowledge of Highlander. Give him the chance to deliver a lecture and he would grab it.
It was unsettling, of course, to see him lose first his mobility and then, for a couple of months, his mind. When he returned from a brief bout of senility, brought on by a bladder infection, he vividly remembered his unit being strafed by a German plane on Omaha Beach shortly after they landed there in July of 1944. My graduate professor Jerome Beaty once said that, to understand an author’s vision, look at the historical moment when he or she was 21, and my father arrived in France just after his 22nd birthday. In the remaining months of his life, he couldn’t couldn’t stop talking about his World War II experiences, and I took the time to record some of them—from the University of Chicago (where he was trained as a translator) to England to Normandy to Paris to Germany. He arrived in Munich three days after Dachau was liberated, and one of his jobs was taking Germans through required tours of the camp so that they couldn’t dismiss the Holocaust as U.S. propaganda.
When parents enter the final years, it is unsettling because roles are reversed as children begin caring for them. The children also lose their perceived buffer: suddenly there is no one left between us and the abyss. I think of the Flannery O’Connor short story “Everything That Rises Must Converge” in which Julian, an adult who lives with his mother and who is perpetually irritated by her, comes face to face with that abyss when she unexpectedly dies. O’Connor concludes her story with Julian panicking:
“Wait here, wait here!” he cried and jumped up and began to run for help toward a cluster of lights he saw in the distance ahead of him. “Help, help!” he shouted, but his voice was thin, scarcely a thread of sound. The lights drifted farther away the faster he ran and his feet moved numbly as if they carried him nowhere. The tide of darkness seemed to sweep him back to her, postponing from moment to moment his entry into the world of guilt and sorrow.
I cite the passage for contrast purposes because it is nothing like what I experienced with my father’s death. Since I had established my own independent identity by this time, and since I could fully appreciate the rich life that he himself had led, it was clear to me that his was the natural end of a beautiful arc. Furthermore, I was consoled by the fact that much of what was best about him—his kindness, his intellectual curiosity, his love of books, his wonderful wit and playfulness, his commitment to the environment, his passion for justice, his concern for the marginalized, his integrity and generosity—I can see in myself, in my sons, and in my grandchildren. We each embody these traits in our own particular ways, of course, but there’s enough of a throughline for me to trace them all back to Scott Bates. In conjunction with my mother, this member of the “greatest generation” (a description my father hated) established a foundation for those who came after.
For that, I am deeply, deeply grateful.
Note: The Scott Bates poem I read at his memorial service captures some of the themes I have been mentioning. In “The Boy with the Golden Crown,” my father draws imagery from Greek mythology, Judaism, Christianity, and various sun and earth religions. Death, the poem assures us, does not get the last word: the “boy with the golden crown” always rises again at dawn, just as the spirit moves on the waters, the phoenix rises from the ashes, and Jesus emerges from the tomb. I saw my father, who was always boyish in his enthusiasms, as this boy. As I told those assembled, although physically he was longer with us, his spirit rises again and again–in his poetry, in the lives of those he touched, and in the lineages he set in motion.
The Boy with the Golden Crown
By Scott Bates
In the beginning I was the sun
the chaos and the father
my spirit moved upon the deep
I made the earth my mother
She married me and gave me birth
I died my name was Jesus
In three days I was born again
I was as rich as CroesusI flew my father’s ashes home
I fell in love with Venus
I loved my neighbor as myself
my mother and my penis
Each evening I go down in flames
I rise again at dawn
I am the bird the flesh the word
the boy with the golden crown
Past Installments of A Life Lived in Literature
A Life Lived in Literature: How It All Began (Sept. 5, 2025)
Early Reading Memories (Sept. 12, 2025)
Childhood Confusion: Reading to the Rescue (Sept. 19, 2025)
Confronting Segregation (Sept. 26, 2025)
School Reading vs. Real Reading (Oct. 10, 2025)
Childhood in Paris (Oct. 17, 2025)
My Time at Sewanee Military Academy (Oct. 24, 2025)
Existentialism for High School Seniors (Oct. 31, 2025)
Why I Majored in History, Not English (Nov. 7, 2025)
My College Search for Authenticity (Nov. 14, 2025)
On D. H. Lawrence and a Sexual Awakening (Nov. 21, 2025)
My Life as a Bildungsroman (Nov. 28, 2025)
Grad School: Literary Baptism by Fire (Dec. 5, 2025)
Early Scenes from a Marriage (Dec. 12, 2025)
Bringing Up Baby in Grad School (Dec. 19, 2025)
Grappling with Racism (Jan. 2, 2026)
Journal of a Young Teacher (Jan. 16, 2026)
Teaching and Reading in Yugoslavia (Jan. 23, 2026)
Life at 40: Barely Controlled Chaos (Jan 30, 2026)
From Secular Humanist to Christian Believer (Feb. 6 2025)
Looking Back at a Lifetime Together (Feb. 13, 2026)
To Ljubljana with Love (Feb. 20, 2026)
Forging a Separate Identity from My Father (Feb. 27, 2026)
“Better Living” Emerged from a Midnight Epiphany (March 6, 2026)
The Golden Years before Tragedy Struck (March 13, 2026)
Using Lit to Grapple with a Death (March 20, 2026)
Lit in the Year following Justin’s Death (March 27, 2026)
My Eldest Son, Named after a Keats Sonnet (April 3, 2026)
Sterne’s Uncle Toby and My Own Toby (April 10, 2026)
After the 2nd Death, a Book Project (April 17, 2026)
Making Lit Meaningful for Students (April 24, 2026)
Horizons Broadened (May 1, 2026)
Obama’s Election and a Blog Launched (May 8, 2026)
Expanding Outward at 60 (May 15, 2026)
On Losing My Father (May 22, 2026)









