Relationship Advice from Blake

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Valentine’s Day

Here’s some relationship advice, courtesy of William Blake, for Valentine’s Day.

“The Clod and the Pebble” is a deceptive poem. The Clod of Clay speaks first and, initially appears to be a positive model. Achieving a heaven in hell’s despair sounds like a good thing. The hell-building Pebble, meanwhile, binds others to its delight, and binding in Blake is never good.

Don’t be fooled, however. What appears to be selfless love sounds a bit too much like a willingness to be trampled beneath the cattle’s feet. Clods are passible enablers of aggressive, self-absorbed pebbles:

“Love seeketh not itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care,
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a heaven in hell’s despair.”

So sung a little Clod of Clay,
Trodden with the cattle’s feet,
But a Pebble of the brook
Warbled out these metres meet:

“Love seeketh only Self to please,
To bind another to its delight,
Joys in another’s loss of ease,
And builds a hell in heaven’s despite.”

A healthier approach: mix a little clay with a little pebble, respecting your partner’s desires even as you honor your own. A good relationship is a dance and a negotiation between self and other. Maintain balance as you celebrate your love.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

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One Comment

  1. Jason
    Posted February 15, 2014 at 3:45 am | Permalink

    Robin,
    what a fine, short and sweet interpretation of a fine, short and not-sweet poem.

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